perkins talking books
By:
Dede Perkins
The other night while watching a replay of Full House, I heard my daughters and friends laugh.
"Tell her! "
"No, you!"
"Mom!" cried my second grader. "They know something and not tell me!"
"Jesse and Becky wants a baby," says my fourth grader, an accomplice to his voice tone.
Ah.
I called my second child degree in the living room.
"What do you know?"
His eyes widened.
"Oh, nothing," he said as he turned them off.
"When you're ready, we can talk about it," he said.
When my oldest daughter turned nine, he began complaining of stomach pains. His sunny personality hit the skids. She was her same old self one day, a disaster in a bad mood the next.
In his year physics, I asked your pediatrician what was happening.
"The beginning of puberty," he replied.
My eyes were opened, and laughed.
"Girls are developing earlier than ever, "he said." It has nine, you know. "
Over the coming weeks, I thought what he said. There was no way around it, is time for "the talk".
For several weeks, I talked with other mothers. If they had had "the talk" yet? If so, how to address the issue?
Some mothers bought books, as is perfectly normal, by Robie H. Harris or modification of organs, read the books together. Some went to the cold turkey one day only to bring up the subject.
I decided that a combination of approaches that work best for us. I had already given my daughter the care and maintenance of You, a book by American Girl. He read it from beginning to end. Sometimes I find her leafing through the book before bedtime. We already talked about hygiene and periods, bras and healthy eating. Now it was time to tell her about sex.
Met some of his friends already knew about sex. Some had older sisters. Some have discovered inadvertently. Some have called openly. I my daughter's stomach might be linked to worry about what did not and what others did.
I bought it is perfectly normal, read it and put it away. I decided to speak first, offering the book as a backup.
A few days later, as we went home from a store, the two of us in the car, I said: "Since you're nine years, one thing we must talk. I know some of your friends already know about sex, and I do not want you to feel like they know something no. "
I looked at my daughter and saw him watching me, waiting for me to continue. I took a deep breath and began. I had always said my children to tell God when you're ready to love and care for a baby and most of the time, in time, your wishes will be answered. Now I told my daughter the details of how to "tell God". I told my daughter how male and female bodies fit to start a baby. I told him that although it seems serious, when you love someone and you're ready to have a baby, is a pleasant and exciting experience. I told her not to tell her younger sisters because they were not old enough yet. I think she liked the best.
Surprisingly enough, my daughter questions. I was so relieved the conversation went well, I can not even remember the questions he asked. All I know is that she seemed glad to hear the truth, to understand, finally, how to make a baby.
So I urge you to think about what approach works best, and then go ahead with it. If your daughter is not ready, tell him to ask where she is. Offering one of the books and say who can read when ready. Whether your daughter is relieved or embarrassed will gladly took the first step. Maintain open lines of honest communication during adolescence is the key to maintaining their relationship and the increase of a confidant, lover, resilient young woman.
As for my second grader, still has not asked about of what-not will-say-it, though I imagine that has a pretty good idea. In a year or two, I will buy another book, take a deep breath and say what you need know.
About the Author:
Dede Perkins writes on a number of subjects for a number of industries. She also runs a copywriting business, http://www.afewgoodwords.com and helps her clients increase sales by clarifying and communicating their marketing messages.
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